"Many people look forward to the new year, for a new start on old habits"

- Unknown

Hello beautiful goddess and happy sweet '16!

How are you feeling about it being a new year? Does it fill you with excitement, all the possibilities that lie ahead? Does the thought of planning or goal setting fill you with dread? Or are you completely indifferent to it all, and just want to get on with it?

Whichever way you personally approach it, the start of a new year usually brings up pretty strong emotions in all of us. Year after year, we try to change forcefully and set incredibly high standards for how our lives 'should' look and feel. A few months in, and discipline fades, leaving us feeling defeated yet again. According to the Fitness Industry Association, 12% of all gym members sign up in January, yet after just 24 weeks most people have quit or stopped attending.

True change needs 21 days of consistent action to create a new pathway in the brain, for it to become a habit. 

Rather than trying to tackle every area of your life, why not just focus on one aspect, that you can commit 21 days of consistent action to. Don't forget, you can start this at any time. Change is possible even after the 1st of January on any given year ;)

As well as consistency, a new habit needs to work for you. There's little to no point forcing yourself to do something you really don't want to do. If you've bought a book or e-course from an industry leader, make sure you implement only what really resonates in your heart. I'm really against the 'cookie cutter mould' approach, and believe that what works for one goddess, will never work for another. If you want to exercise more, find a modality you really love. If you want to eat better, focus on portion and freshness rather than the new trendy fads. 

Perhaps instead of a new habit, you could choose a word for the year. One word that encompasses how you would like to feel everyday, and what energy you would like to draw into your life. I've chosen compassion. Compassion towards myself in any moment of doubt, fear, anger, frustration or weakness. Reminding myself that I am doing the best that I can. But also, compassion towards others in this global community, and accepting others for who they are, not who I need them to be. I'd like to place a lot less energy into getting upset over the little things, and having a compassionate heart towards yourself and others can truly change your corner of the world.

To really get the most out of 2016 then, be gentle with yourself.

Change is not a future event, but a present activity. Take each day as it comes, and as an opportunity to strengthen your vision of what it is you want from life. When you don't act as the highest version of yourself - it's OK. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and not the other way around. Be realistic with yourself and how much you can actually load onto your plate. 

What insights did you gain from today's post? What are your goals for 2016? What habit or word have you chosen to inspire your way forward? I would love to hear from you in the comments below. Please also share this post with any sister who would benefit from some soul reflection on the new year.

Thank you so much for reading this week’s Monday Meditation.

In love and gratitude

Fiorella Kis-Major