“A woman should be two things: who and what she wants.”

- Coco Chanel

Hello beautiful goddess

Tonight's Super Moon in Taurus is an opportunity to re-evaluate your goals and how you want to achieve them. Taurus is a sign of stability and practicality, so a wonderful night for stillness to reflect within.

After my recent Byron Bay retreat, run together with my mentor Tom Cronin of The Stillness Project, I took some much needed time off at the end to do exactly that - reflect within. Byron is known for it's tranquil and healing energy, and I felt held so beautifully by the sound of waves and the gorgeous weather. After one of the most tumultuous years of my life, I wanted to let go of so much that at times, threatened to drown me in a sea of sorrow.

I'd like to share with you 3 tools I used in my down time to shake off the past and move forward with confidence, ready for 2017 that is quite literally around the corner!

1. Call Back Your Power

Danielle LaPorte, author of The Desire Map, is my go to guru for all things spirit and business. On a recent podcast, she shared that whenever she moves out of a home, she smudges the whole space and then declares "I call all of my power back to me now. I am whole. I am complete." Danielle then repeats this mantra until she feels all of her power back in her body, ready to move on to the new place.

I went about this slightly differently and imagined all of the homes I have lived in this year, and thanks to my supportive network of friends and family, there have been quite a few...! I visualised any energy stores that I have left behind at the different places coming back into my body, one by one... I cannot begin to describe what a powerful experience this was, and how I truly felt  much more energised. Continue to repeat this mantra until you feel yourself full from the inside out.

2. Write It Out

When a relationship ends, there is often so much left unsaid and even when closure does happen it can often feel unsatisfying if common ground isn't reached. I took a deep breath on the front porch of the beach house I was staying at and wrote two letters: one to my ex husband, and one to my former London lover. They both started off with Dear X, and that is where their similarities started, and ended.

The first letter was more slowly written, full of sadness and disappointment that had built up over 6 years. The second letter was written furiously, mostly in capital letters and with - a lot of swear words. The sadness and the anger were both emotions that I needed to acknowledge, to release and finally to transcend. By the time I signed off both letters, I felt a huge weight lifting off my shoulders, and I truly felt that on some level they had both heard what I had to say.

What happened next was fascinating... the letter to my ex husband burned slowly and steadily, as if the sadness and tears were still lingering on the pages. The letter to my former lover literally burst into flames in the kitchen sink before my very eyes. Whatever the reason for the difference in styles, I went back outside feeling lighter and freer than I have all year!

3. Call It In

When my Wellness Coaching clients ask how they can call in a new love into their lives, I always recommend writing a soul mate wish list. Write down the qualities that you seek in a partner, no less than 10, and notice how it makes you feel to see your dreams come alive on paper.

I had completed this exercise many years before meeting my ex husband, and he didn't exactly match a lot of what I wrote, which should have been a sign. With the former list now burnt in the kitchen sink also (it's truly a miracle that beach house didn't burn down!), I set about writing a fresh, new one. The very first item on that list is kindness and gentleness when speaking to me - as much and as often as possible. I have had enough of being yelled at by angry men, a pattern that I previously continued to attract and am no longer willing to accept. 

The lesson now is to treat myself what that same level of kindness and gentleness first. Keep this also in mind when writing your list. How are you treating yourself presently that would invite another person to do the same?

I completed all three parts in the one long afternoon, and then had a very quiet night in to recalibrate all of the learning and healing that took place. You're very welcome to do the same, or take them on in bite size pieces at a time. 

My greatest hope is that these tools bring about empowered change in your life, beautiful goddess.

I would LOVE to hear from you in the comments below, and I vow to personally respond to each one. Have you tried any of the tools out? How did you feel afterwards? 

Know anyone who needs some empowered change? Please share this post with them.

In love and gratitude