"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."

- Buddha

Hello beautiful goddess

I'm writing this post to you from my new home in London, feeling so incredibly grateful for all of the ups and downs this year has brought me so far. My last post to you was on the breakdown of my marriage and the end of a 6 year relationship. I now find myself lucky enough to live in a gorgeous yet peaceful part of the city, having already found my new tribe and business opportunities at every turn. I literally sat down this morning and asked myself "how did I get here?!".

This transformation honestly began the moment that I allowed myself to feel worthy. Worthy of love. Worthy of abundance. Worthy of success. Worthy of health. Worthy of being happy. When we don't believe in ourselves, like ourselves, much less even love ourselves - life feels very constrictive. Personally, I went from being a relatively happy child to a teenager who felt incredibly worthless after years of bullying at school. When you are given the message over and over again that you are unlike the rest of your peers, and therefore worth nothing, it becomes very easy to believe. There was a time where I can actually admit to hating myself and not appreciating all that I had to offer the world. I didn't want to be different, empathic or out in the spotlight for people to judge me. A pattern began to emerge over the years where I would support everyone else, at both work and with loved ones, but never believe that I should be treated the same way in return. 

My clients are usually drawn to me because they would like to learn to meditate, feel more feminine, eat cleaner etc. However, the root cause of each and every one of their struggles is this exact feeling of not being worthy. We tend to associate wellness with green juices, yoga poses on Instagram or organic skin care products.

True wellness has nothing to do with external appearances or solutions, but how you feel inside every morning when you wake up. 

Terms like 'self-love' are thrown around a lot by industry leaders, including me! However I've come to realise that this feels too broad a topic, too intimidating to be taken on without guidance. Therefore, we hide behind a mask of humility, not accepting compliments, invitations for a meal to be paid for, opportunities for us to step into our power and play big. 

I'm often asked how a woman can begin to feel worthy, and the truth is, it's not an overnight process. Like any muscle, it needs to be strengthened over time, again and again. I began by asking myself questions like "how much longer can I keep putting myself and my dreams last?", "what will feeling worthy afford me in life?" and "what will it cost me if I never begin?". 

Women are natural born givers, however, we really struggle to receive. 

Two simple ways to begin to feel worthy:

1. Say yesThe next time an opportunity comes your way, practice really receiving the energy and feeling worthy of it. If a friend wants to pay for dinner, let her. If a stranger gives you a compliment, say thank you. It's amazing how much your life changes when you begin to allow the good stuff in!

2. Time out: When you can begin to prioritise your needs as being important, you'll know your worthy-ness tank is getting nice and full. Make that massage appointment, sign up for that meditation class or set aside time in your calendar every day to read because it brings you joy. 

Now I would LOVE to hear from you in the comments below:

  1. How have your feelings of self worth changed over the years?
  2. What rituals do you have to evoke a deeper sense of worth?

Please share this post with any sister who would benefit from some soul reflection on how incredibly worthy she really is.

Thank you so much for staying strong and committed to your wellness journey. You are a goddess who deserves to be nourished at every level.

In love and gratitude for all that you are

Fiorella Kis-Major